I have been with my husband for 20 years (I’m only 38) and we have been married for 16 of those years. We have 5 children. || In February, he allowed this 23 year old in his head and convinced himself he deserved better (we had a good marriage…so I thought) and he moved out. We tried to work it out for a few months, then a few weeks ago, I found out he was sleeping with her. Since she is a child, I constantly get text messages from her, and they finally stopped when I told her I was taught to give my used toys to the less fortunate AND called her boss and asked him how she could do her job effectively when she was texting her boyfriends wife all day. || I love my husband very much and I know he is not in a good place mentally (he has had some serious self esteem issues through the years) but I am learning I deserve better.